If we've spent time uncovering and honoring our traumas and we've gotten to a place of some level of understanding (there is never a perfect sort of understanding), at some point, we must start to intentionally/consciously shift focus.
This doesn't mean we aren't also still working through layers of trauma as they come up. That will happen forever; it's part of this being human thing.
And I think that's why people get stuck, actually... they sense that there is more to work on so they think they have to focus. No, you don't.
Shit happens. Shit will keep happening and it will trigger you into deeper understanding of previous shit.
In the meantime, we can and we MUST continue to work on the other focus -- the Joy Focus, to put it one way.
This is not bypassing because we aren't using joyful things to avoid the hard stuff.
We are recognizing that life is both the hard stuff and the joyful things and we're giving space to each.
At first, consciously shifting our focus will feel... almost fake, right?
Because we've gotten so accustomed to living in the crap and the unwinding of crap, focusing on anything else will feel like we are frauds. It will feel like bypassing, but again, it’s not.
But we must persist.
We are in charge of these minds/this life. We get to decide where we put our energy.
We are not here to just be bandied about by circumstances and memories.
We are the bosses of ourselves, including of our brains, and our brains are tools to create and experience that which we WANT/DESIRE/NEED.
How do we do this? You know the answer...
By BEING IN THE BODY.
We do this by moving, by noticing, by fine tuning our senses through positive sensory input like music and art and nature and good food and great smells and and and...
So... What can you start moving, noticing, fine tuning...
I’d love to hear from you. What are three small things you can start with?